Re: Help!

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Posted by Benoit ( on May 16, 2000 at 09:37:12:

In Reply to: Help! posted by michael on May 10, 2000 at 13:04:00:

Michael, of what good intentions are you talking about? Satisfying your self-centerted desires of so-called love? My friend, the question you should ask when you are about to do something is "Will my conduct create suffering for someone"? Suppose you get very sick, would you be so confused about whether it is right or not that your lover starts dating another man, a healthy one? Please tell your girlfriend to follow the Noble Eightfold Path and go compassionately take care of her boyfriend. I might seem harsh, but I have been in a similar situation as you in the past. I have suffered much for it. I wish you all the strenght you need to go through this situation. And I wish you success in the incomparable Eightfold Path. And if you really love her, do not allow her to create suffering for others, or go with her see the poor fellow and ask him if it would hurt him that you and her consume this love.
Friendly with metta,

My distress pertains to Sexual misconduct. I follow the Eight Fold Path to the best of my abilities but lately I have been really confused about this subject. Basically I met this amazing women,and we fell in love. Not physically at first but it has come to that. The problem is she is,she is dating this guy that is always on medications. He is a starving ghost, she is leaving him because of this fact. (she has come to this conclusion before she met me) I know that being with this women is miscoduct; but it is love. His Holiness the Dali Lama says in a book I'm reading that some wrong deeds done with good intention are not wrong. Is this one of them? I need guidanace, please help

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