Posted by dharmamoon (188.8.131.52) on July 30, 2000 at 10:02:03:
In Reply to: Advice Please posted by tazlah on July 28, 2000 at 22:33:03:
I don't know what advice to give you, only to just sit with your dad and try to keep him calm. I realize he is driving you all crazy, but that is mostly because he is scared of his future.
Last year when I was pregnant with my daughter, we found out my father had throat cancer from years of smoking. He had kept putting off going to see the doctor until finally he could hardly speak his throat was so bad. He had surgery to remove part of his voice box, and there was a chance he would never talk again. He was on edge, as we all were, and yes, he drove us crazy. I am happy to say today he is ok and even gave up smoking, but he still is aggravating and drives us crazy! I sympathize with wanting to share your buddhism with your loved ones, because obviously you have realized that calming ones mind and meditating help alleviate stress. That's way my recommendation to you and other family members is to try to stay calm yourselves, and keep him calm. When someone is scared and sick, the get stressed and lash out. Even the family dog will bite you if he's hurt and scared. So just try to help everyone, including yourself stay calm. Don't necessarily bring up the words "buddhism" or even "meditation" because alot of people, especially older people, have a stigma to that word. Your father may not be receptive to the word, be he may be receptive to the actions. Email me if you need any advice, and please keep us updated about your father. We are all thinking of you and your family. HANG IN THERE!
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