Tibetan Buddhist Opinions Wanted

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Posted by Joel ( on September 21, 2000 at 18:22:28:

Hi everyone,
I am a practicing Zen Buddhist but wanted some Tibetan Buddhist opinions on the following. NB I'm in my mid 30s and divorced after 5 years of marriage.In Zen, and especially at my Zen Center it is constantly reiterated
that Buddhism is the death of hope. The shedding of illusions, casting
aside the ego, and being present in the moment. I have a problem with this,
I am a romantic and an idealist. It is hard for me to put my aspirations on
the shelf and have no expectation of the future. Although I fully realize
that it just these hopes that are the cause of suffering. Everything the
ego projects cannot be fulfilled, and so this viscous cycle of aspirations
and failure to achieve them is what fuels the ego, or at least my ego. People are so
jaded by past failures and hurts, their hopes have died or have at least been
diminished by their life experiences. Since my divorce I have been
optimistic and put stock in my dreams, but I think I need to conform.
I see the ego and how it functions, Zazen has brought me closer to that,
but it seems to be bringing closer to the societal norm, that is
compromising my aspirations. I am not sure if I am making sense, but this has been
on my mind. Until I have the courage to confront the ego, my spiritual
practice seems to be stagnated.

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