Posted by Andreas Isaksson (126.96.36.199) on October 07, 2000 at 15:24:13:
In Reply to: love posted by kundagbo on October 07, 2000 at 12:21:42:
I am NOT a marriage counselor nor do I really know what to do. As I see it you have 2 options.
1. You forget all about the other person that you have started to get feelings for. It shouldn't be that hard. Think of it as when you meditate. If a thought pops up you just recognize that it is there then you let go of it. You don't try to get involved with the thought itself. Just release it. Let go...
Or option number 2 which I think would be less appealing. You leave your wife of 18 years to pursue a relationship with a woman that you think might bring you just as much happiness as your wife once did. I personally think this option is really bad. Instead try and rediscover your love to your wife. What made you love her 18 years ago and why has that changed? Maybe life isn't exciting anymore? Go on a trip, just the two of you and try to see all the beautiful things about your wife.
Don't give up 18 years of marriage to easily my friend. Think hard and long before doing something drastic like divorce and be aware that you won't ever get your wife back again if you divorce her.
I agree with you that having an affair would be the tragic if she found out. Actually I think that it would be tragic to have an affair even if she doesn't find anything out. Don't even think about going there...
As for what you should read I really have no idea. Try to meditate and let go of the thoughts and feeling that you have started to have about the new woman.
Hmm, now I have written way to much. I hope that everything works out and that you doesn't do anything stupid.
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