Posted by Blue Ocean on February 19, 19100 at 12:27:12:
In Reply to: Re: oops posted by Sam on February 17, 19100 at 08:11:52:
Thanks a lot for your respond to my message when I really needed one. Your respons is valuable to me not only because you are a person who always likes to learn and are in the similar situation, but because I could also see men's point of view. Yes! I love my husband because we have been living with each other for so long that we became family, but no, I don't like to "change other people's mind" when it comes to religon. He is o.k. seeing me eatting like a rabbit and I am o.k. seeing him chewing the steak that I cooked for him. The problem is he cannot control his temper and after so many years it gets worse. His anger toward everybody around him that has taken out on me not only scare me but wore me out emotinally. I was raised as a Buddhist but I also studied other religions, like you, I picked a little bit from here and there to use for my everyday life. I have self-control when I was hurt by his unkind words, choosing to have peace, I walked away. I was quiet when he made bad remarks to make me feel less than I suppose to be, a good human being. I choose to be his friend than enermy even when he was so angry that he demonstrates to our children that it is o.k. to speak badly to their mother. Meanwhile, I taught the kids to be kind to other people as well as respect other's people belief. I taught the kids to have self-control and have compassion toward other people. I only want my husband to know that he doesn't need to worry about what other people think of him, he needs to ignore them and "let it go" of all of those comments. I only want him to be happy eventhough at this point, I realized that it is no longer me who could do it. The question now could only be "am I going to make it?"
Thank you so much to take time to help, I definitely can use your advice. I wish you and your fiance the very best.
"A Silent mind can meet the noisy world, yet, in perfect silence stay."
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